Our Rule of Life
We wrote a rule of life together before our wedding, and committed to this in addition to more traditional vows. Our friend Kri Schlafer created the accompanying artwork, which was framed along with our words and processed in to our wedding liturgy. It now hangs on the front wall of our house, and each year on our anniversary we recommit to it and review how faithful we have been to it.
In response to a God
who becomes vulnerable to be close to us
who offers abundant joy, healing, and reconciliation,
We resolve to live our lives in covenant
to be and to act,
through the seasons of our lives
in the following ways...
We commit to becoming more fully ourselves:
to care for our bodies,
and taking the rest that we need
to care for our emotions,
to healing and grace
to pursue our passions and our gifts,
share our unique abilities with others
to be vulnerable to God
entering into conversation daily with our God and
looking for Christ's presence in our experiences.
We commit to relationship with our beloved:
to empower each other in our personal journeys,
to meet each other intimately,
engaging in healthy conflict,
risking hurt but inviting love
to play joyfully,
inviting fun, creativity, and surprise into our lives
to give our bodies to each other
welcoming new life into our family,
however God may grant it.
We commit to a lifestyle of discipleship:
to be in intentional relationship
calling on their love and support when we are in need,
asking them to call us to accountability when we stray
to move toward greater community,
supporting larger efforts to bring people together
to live simply,
sharing what we have
in a spirit of abundance rather than scarcity
to bear God’s justice,
working for peace in the midst of violence,
speaking for those whose voices go unheard.
Confident that God
we make these vows on May 15, 2004.